I love astrology, and I especially love it when it’s to do with sex. (Can you tell I have lots of saucy Scorpio placements in my chart?) By looking at the where the planets Mars and Venus fall in your personal chart, we can gauge your style in the bedroom and what you enjoy & need during sex (and do the same for your partners). Because when you have a tool available like astrology for self-awareness and self-acceptance, of course you’re gonna use it to improve your sex life.
Astrology and Sex
First let’s introduce the main players.
- Mars Sign
This is your sex drive: what you desire, how (or if) you initiate sex. - Venus Sign
This is your personal love and romance style: dating, flirting, affection and sensual pleasure.
There are of course other aspects of the chart that also influence your sexual personality (such as the fifth house of pleasure, seventh house of partnerships and eighth house of intimacy), but these two planets are the best place to start.
You can look up your astrology chart for free here.
Which planet do I look at?
When you read through the following descriptions of the sign placements, take an intuitive combination of your Mars and Venus sign to determine your bedroom flavour.
Notice what does sound like you, and also take note of what doesn’t sound like you – sometimes it’s because it truly isn’t characteristic of us (since different aspects of the zodiac signs show up differently in everyone), but sometimes it’s because it’s an unconscious quality of ours. We don’t always see ourselves so clearly.
So sit with it for a while, take some time to journal on those aspects, and see if a new perspective on your sex life reveals itself to you.
This is a pretty basic interpretation. If you want to get a deeper understanding of how you thrive in intimacy and relationships, book your personalised Astrology Reading!
Venus in Aries
Loves the chase, confident, initiative.
When dating, you’re not afraid to make the first move, and that’s attractive to people. When in a relationship, you’re typically the one who ‘wears the pants’ and loves choosing what you do for date night (it’s usually something energetic and competitive, like laser tag).
Mars in Aries
Passionate, impulsive, self-oriented.
Fiery, action-driven Mars is in its home sign. You’re a fan of impulsive hookups and one-night stands when you’re single. With partners, you’re not afraid to speak up and let them know what you like. Your boldness is rewarded and appreciated, because they know exactly how to please you. You prioritise your own pleasure, and that’s admirable.
Venus in Taurus
Sensual, splurgy, stable.
Taurus is one of Venus’s two home signs, so you’re an extra romantic. You appreciate fancy date nights and show your partners you care through lots of physical affection, because touch is important to you. You’re more into long-term partners rather than flings.
Mars in Taurus
Pleasure-oriented, steady, sensual.
Thanks to down-to-earth and luxury-loving Taurus, you prefer to take sex one step at a time and refuse to be rushed. You love setting the right scene with candles, music and lighting, and are a huge fan of languorous foreplay.
Venus in Gemini
Curious, chatty, fast-moving.
You love getting to know people through conversation, and your desire to learn about everything and anything to do with sex makes you a fun partner in the bedroom. However, since your mind is your greatest asset, you can also tend to overthink romance and be driven by logic rather than your sensual, erotic desires, or get lost in the ‘what ifs.’
Mars in Gemini
Enthusiastic, imaginative and fun-loving.
Talking and laughing in bed? Major turn on for you. Kissing and oral pleasures are some of your favourite parts of sex; you’re a great dirty-talker and sexter as well. You’re curious about all different types of sexual expression, but sometimes get caught up in your mind instead of being in the present moment.
Venus in Cancer
Cosy, nurturing, comfort-oriented.
Self-protective and emotional, Cancers are the most sentimental and romantic of the signs in love. Feeling emotionally close to your partner is key to fulfilment in your relationship and sex life, and you’re a natural nurturer: cooking a delicious meal, cuddling and kissing are your form of foreplay.
Mars in Cancer
Self-protective, moody, deep.
You’re known for being sensitive and sweet in bed, and are normally turned on by partners who are confident and open. Your sex drive is usually dependent on your mood, which tends to change as often as the ocean’s tides. You may have to hold off for sex until second dates or an emotional connection before you feel sexual attraction towards someone, so allow yourself that space.
Venus in Leo
Flashy, fiery, flirty.
You love relationships with drama and glam: luxurious sexy getaways are your thing. You love being in the spotlight with your partner or on the dating scene. You’re definitely good at taking care of your partner, but you have a natural inclination to take care of your own pleasure first. Alongside your flirty romantic style, you also have a deep desire for love and affection.
Mars in Leo
Performative, direct, open.
For Leos, sex is great when you have your partner’s undivided attention and adoration. A doting partner who appreciates you taking the lead is a huge turn on. Your strong sense of pride makes you want to be the best in bed and you have an urge to impress your lovers, which makes you an open book in bed. They’re also the role-players, exhibitionists and lingerie-wearers of the zodiac.
Venus in Virgo
Devoted, generous, detail-oriented.
Virgos show affection (and flirt) through small acts of kindness. Although you’re sometimes insecure, you make up for it by paying attention to what brings your partner pleasure. You can also be a little picky when it comes to choosing partners, or overly critical of the little things like cleanliness, or even harsh on yourself in bed.
Mars in Virgo
Adaptable, sensitive, diligent.
Virgos love to please. You’re most satisfied when you feel like you’re caring thoroughly for your partner’s needs. You take note of all the tiny details of what your partners enjoy, and they love you for it. But sex is also important to you, as a way to release stress and tension. Your favourite style is sweet and straightforward, but just because you tend to keep your fantasies to yourself doesn’t mean you’re not up for exploring.
Venus in Libra
Flirty, romantic, aesthetic-oriented.
Libra is the other sign of Venus’s domicile, so the planet of love is very happy here. Your biggest values are harmony and balance, and you love to please your partners. You’re naturally flirtatious and charming when single, and great at rekindling the spark of storybook romance in relationships. You value how things look: your body, outfits, the choice of date location.
Mars in Libra
Charming, givers, mood-creators.
While you’re often very giving in bed, you also expect your partner to give in return equally (balance is key). Mars is in its fall in Libra, meaning you probably have a hard time initiating. You have this strong need to get things right, so you like to feel that your sex life is always improving and expanding. Your charm can be quite provocative, and the atmosphere of sex always has to be on point: candle-lit rooms, sexy music, silky sheets. Oh, and since you love aesthetics, you’re the queen of using mirrors or taking photos during sex.
Venus in Scorpio
Deep, obsessive, intense.
You bring passion to everything you adore, and that extends to your sex life. When single, you tend to get very deep with someone very fast. When you’re with someone, you require intimacy, and superficial relationships are a huge turn off.
Mars in Scorpio
Spiritual, magnetic, super-sexual.
Scorpios think of sex as intimate, erotic and transformative. You’re perhaps one of the most complex lovers of the zodiac; whilst you’re innately intense and emotional, you can also be a closed book. You bring intensity and passion to the bedroom, and also enjoy playing with power dynamics. Scorpios are also the most likely to be drawn to the more taboo sexual realms.
Venus in Sagittarius
Adventurous, idealistic, curious.
Your free-spirited and idealistic nature brings a special character to your romantic life. You may be drawn to lovers from foreign countries or who are completely different from your exes – because you love expanding your horizons! Romantic gestures don’t really do it for you. However, you’ll always be down to attend a tantra workshop or a steamy couple’s retreat.
Mars in Sagittarius
Direct, fun-loving, spontaneous.
For this Mars placement, sex is a sport. You’re super direct with what you like and need in bed, and have a refreshing frankness that your lovers enjoy because they know where they stand. You love to have fun in bed, and laughing is a huge turn-on.
Venus in Capricorn
Committed, classy, consistent.
Determined in nature, Capricorns can be a little choosy about who gets your love; but once you’ve found someone worth putting in the work for, you’re all in. As an Earth sign, you love the finer things in life, so pleasure to you equates to classy fine dining. You’re content with consistency in your romantic life, because to you, security is more important than variety.
Mars in Capricorn
Dominant, blunt, private.
Like everywhere else in life, you’re straightforward and industrious when it comes to sex. You either are naturally dominant or are drawn to strong or powerful lovers who show authority. Handcuffs, power play and discipline are your sexual zones of genius.
Venus in Aquarius
Independent, intellectual, unconventional.
Quirky, unique and community-minded Aquarius means that your love life is probably skewed towards friends with benefits, situationships and dating in your social circle. An intellectual connection is super important for you to vibe with someone.
Mars in Aquarius
Cool, detached, experimental.
You’re attracted to anything outside the norm: threesomes, fetishes or nonmonogamy. But you can also have a take-it-or-leave-it energy when it comes to sex, because honestly, you’re pretty fulfilled by your platonic friendships already. You come off as effortless and experienced in bed, rather than warm and open – that’s deadly attractive to some.
Venus in Pisces
Dreamy, compassionate, spiritual.
Pisces lovers are willing to please (sometimes to the detriment of your own pleasure) and are highly romantic and emotional beings, but also a little withdrawn. You easily slip into a chameleon role in relationships, not sharing your true thoughts or desires. You’re sensitive, quick to forgive and often wear rose-coloured glasses with lovers.
Mars in Pisces
Over-giving, emotional, shy.
You find it hard to ask for what you want in bed, and also find it hard to maintain your boundaries. Your sex life is coloured by your vivid imagination and dreamy romanticism – to you, sex could feel like an escape from reality. You’re more passive than initiative in sex, preferring to see who comes your way than chasing down lovers. Steamy for you equals connecting to someone in a otherworldly, soulmate-y way.
Enjoy using this newfound self-awareness of your sexy side to improve your pleasure and communication with lovers! Remember, we’re all coloured by all aspects of your birth chart as a whole, but this is a great place to start. Have fun, sirens.
With love,
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